Here is our closing night question:
Share an artifact that symbolizes what you want to bring forth from this shelter in place journey -- to help you REMEMBER the wisdom of this time and PARTICIPATE in building a Village of All Together.
When someone is on a journey, in folktales, myths and history, they often have a talisman or symbol or actual "tool" that helps them move forward and overcome challenges. I thought it would be powerful to see if there is a tool or symbol from this time to remind us of how we want to walk in our lives, our civic engagement, after shelter in place is lifted.
You don't need to plan in advance -- we can do this together.
What came to me immediately was this Bamboo Staff. I used it once, to walk around the block on a day of fatigue because of balancing the huge need for survival help I was seeing and hearing, and what I was able to do. I grabbed this bamboo which was made for reaching things, and started to walk. Suddenly I felt transported to my Dad's village in Greece, where the goat herders (like above) also carry a staff. I thought of Gandalf from Lord of the Rings. When I walked, I felt more connected to village wisdom, to old ways, and settled into my being for this journey. It was also a symbol of just taking the next step, which we have done on this journey.
There were 2 other images- artifacts that came to mind. FIrst, chocolate, since for me it symbolizes self-care, the joy of being with oneself and savoring the moment. This kept me going many times. If it's not chocolate, it could be a walk, playing guitar, calling a friend.
The final image I added was Shards of Glass. It feels like there is something so broken in how we are living, and I want to remember this brokenness when I get caught up in my daily life. We can put the vase back together again, we can reconnect, and our work is to bring love, humanity to piece us back together again -- but with a full acknowledgement of how many people are hurt by these shards- economically, psychically and physically.
Wow, I can't believe we are wrapping up the Spring. How far we have come from the joys of Zoom to the fatigue after being online all day. We traveled with Poet Yosimar to Undocujoy, with Paul Bocanegra who guided us to recognize we aren't as confined as we think (and he understands confinement after 25 years in prison from the time he was a minor), to Melanie who shared the question: HOW do we want to be at this time? what are you doing? what kind of civic engagement role do we want to play? She brought us Deepa Iyer's powerful framework: do you want to contribute as an artist? a guide? a weaver? a first responder? a healer? a builder? a disrupter? a storyteller? a visionary? I find I am a weaver but I long to be more of a poet, a social artist, an instigator. So I'm tuning into those pathways.
The road was windy, partly because we dove so deep into our CIVIC ENGAGEMENT theme by actually doing stuff that could measurably make people's lives better. We couldn't ignore what was happening to people who lost work and got no help. This turned into Evelyne's RV support project, and Sarahi/Dreamers' Roadmap and Heather and Laura of Live in Peace led FirstOfTheMonth campaign. We were so busy actually doing work it was hard to have this evening series of reflection and connection. But no matter what, I always feel better after than I do before. And I think it is because it is a time of slowing, of tuning in, of pausing and reflecting and listening. There is a wisdom of the collective that is much greater than my own, and we can tap into that well when we are together.
And just as COVID revealed our economic inequalities through the suffering of our poorest (financially, not in other ways) neighbors deprived of legal rights, and the racial injustice because black, Latina and Pacific-Islander were getting sick and dying at much greater rates, it also made visible the extent of state-sanctioned murder of black people - a problem after 400 years we can no longer ignore. It may seem like many issues, but is it? Is it possible for us to actually live as people say that "we are all in this together?" Can we build what I was first inspired to build when I heard of it on Lesbos -- a Village of All Together?
The Spring has taught me we can just do what is in front of us. Not abstract big ideas, but bring our whole hearted loving selves to what is in front of us. We didn't plan to have this women-led, collaborative rent fund project, but we started with a commitment to listening, and we brought the love we already shared with each other. It's messy and hard and tiring, but we are showing up - day after day - and asking - what now? How can the collective vision be stronger than getting what I need for my people or project? And when I get tired, I ask myself -- what role am I playing? what role do I want to be playing? how do i move towards the poet, the storyteller in my role? Can I bring more creativity to how I engage? How are you engaging? how do you want to be engaging? how can we rally around a shared vision of a truly prosperous Peninsula for everyone? how can we challenge old paradigms of inequality, racism, immigration 'othering" so deeply entrenched here? what can we do right here, right now? what can you do what here, right now? what's in front of you? and what is the heart inviting you towards?
A bit of creativity from the April 3 Kafenia World Friendly salon.
Nowhere to go
Across our miles and lives
Time for lusciousness
And sweet connections building love around us
With squiggling drawings and kazoos
and Parisian lamps
Pain outside but stillness within
Temptation to self-censor but yearning to scream
Let’s all get an ice cream
Not virtual - real What flavor would you like?
And cashew pistachio chocolate melt
To melt our hearts and warm our spirits
Time to zoom out
Jennifer, Tamara, Isabelle, Mary Jane,
Hard to believe that it’s been just a couple weeks since Kafenia retooled for life with COVID. Early in March it became clear that we had to go virtual, so Kafenia Zoomed into action on Wednesday March 11. Callers from as far as Seattle and San Diego joined local Kafenia Villagers to check in on how everyone was doing and explore how we can come together and activate our collective wisdom instead of fending for ourselves.
Virtual Kafenia Wednesdays are now going strong. Karla and Guadalupe Moreno led an awesome self-care session on March 25. And what a treat on April 2 to have Yosimar Reyes, undocu-poet extraordinaire and the Sequoia Dreamers for a fantastic Peace Meal reunion! (You can read more about Yosimar’s evening in a separate post.)
Of course, Zoom calls are nowhere near as good as hugs and sharing feta and mint tea together. But we still get to see each other’s faces and connect with friends from near and far who have been unable to come to gatherings in person.
And there’s more. We’ve started a World Friendly Visioning salon Fridays at 11am, hosted by Jennifer Wells, who’s in Paris for a few months. Jennifer is leading us in an exploration of how to re-envision society now that everyone is forced to slow down and recognize that we can’t take anything for granted anymore.
Finally, Kafenia has started a major COVID response effort to support people in our community who are hurting and in need. Read about the COVID response in a separate post.
--Barbara Weinstein, April 3, 2020
What a fabulous virtual evening with undocu-poet Yosimar Reyes on April 2! How delightful to spend time with Yosimar and to welcome back Sequoia High School Dreamers who we haven’t seen since the Peace Meal with Dreamers in November.
Yosimar’s been working on a new one-man show that was supposed to premiere in June. Though the show is postponed, he treated us to an excerpt of what he’s working on -- recollections of his early life that are at the same time hilarious and heartbreaking.
Then Yosimar got us all involved. His exercise was fantastic! He prompted all of us to use childhood memories to get started writing. A great time for memories is ages 8-10, when we were independent but still young. We each jotted down the year we remembered, where we lived at the time, the big headline of the year, our best friend, and what we were scared of. Then everyone just wrote for 5 minutes.
A few people shared what they thought of, including about collecting old photos and writing stories for each, experiencing racism at school, living in Mexico and having the same best friend then and now, and of being really happy but worrying about drowning in a bottle.
Next, we asked how is everyone doing? Alberto shared how he unintentionally became a spokesperson for students at Sequoia when he wrote a 2 page letter to his teacher summarizing the challenges he and others are facing with virtual school life: conflicting times for different class sessions, having trouble keeping on task for meetings, having trouble getting things done, and keeping track of everything.
And guess what? His message is getting through. He was asked if his letter could be shared with other teachers and the principal. Hopefully they’ll listen and be responsive.
We’re all learning that this is a time to speak up.
We heard from a few others, from Tulare County to East Palo Alto, who are having a range of experiences.
Some other challenges we heard friends are facing are...
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--submitted by Mary Jane Marcus and Barbara Weinstein
It’s been a whirlwind for the Kafenia COVID response team, which kicked off in mid March. The team started by creating a COVID CIVIC Engagement Guide, with 5 practical things that people can do to help along with resources for people in need. To get the word out, we wrote an opinion piece about the suggestions, and the piece was picked up by PA Weekly!
Mary Jane noticed that people in Palo Alto were offering to help others in their own neighborhoods, but few people were responding that they needed help. Meanwhile, in East Palo Alto, people were feeling the economic bit immediately. So we created two surveys for our own cross-community network, one for people to offer help and the other for people who need help.
From the people who needed help, the overwhelming ask was for rent assistance. Many people, especially undocumented families in East Palo Alto with no other resources, struggle to make rent every month under normal conditions. And these are the people who were slammed immediately with the loss of income in construction, restaurant, gardening, and domestic work due to shelter-in-place.
What came next seemed like a miracle! Members of our community stepped up with contributions and we were able to provide rent assistance for April to ALL the people on our original list. We’ve partnered with Live in Peace, a long time EPA organization, to accept the donations and pass them directly to landlords.
There’s so much more to do, and we could use more members to join the team and take the lead on projects. The team meets several times a week. If you want to learn more, contact Barbara (email@example.com).
Thanks to the awesome team, including Sarahi, Melanie, Mary Jane, Evelyne, and Barbara with the help of Gregoire, Mohamed, Dennis, Caroline, Zoe, and others.
--submitted by Barbara Weinstein